Week 8.5 – More Progress

 

I was all set to tell you about the funny experience we had the other night of listening to my younger daughter’s “speech”. She truly sounded as if she was reading her DMP from the check register my hubby had given to her to play with. She talked about how she was going to teach her parents to play the piano, and how she wants to clean her room. She said it all with so much emotion that it was inspiring and hilarious at the same time.

So while that was cute, and it shows that she has heard one or both of us reading our DMP (my older daughter is doing MKMMA with me), what happened today was even more profound.

Thursdays are long days for us. We leave the house at around noon and get home around 8 p.m. For most people, that may not seem like much; for a homeschooling family, it feels like a long day. That time is spent catching up on MKMMA readings and videos, making prospecting and follow up calls, showing the service I market, driving my daughter to the classes she is doing, and occasionally sitting in on one of those classes.

One of the big things on a Thursday is piano class. Today, we were 3/4 way to the dance studio and my daughter turned around, looked in the back of the car, and turned to face front, sighing. In that moment, I knew she had left something important. It turns out it was the most important thing – her piano bag with every book she is using.

 

downloading success

 

The old me would have been furious, and I would have let her have it, verbally berating her. Instead, I asked what she suggested we do about it. She came up with three options. The first one was the one that I liked. The other two options required a return home and then back to the studio. Both the dance studio and the piano studio are 40 minutes away from home, and about 20-30 minutes away from each other. She called her piano teacher, leaving a message asking if she could use her (the piano teacher’s) music. Next we talked about the other options. I then asked her how she would respond if she was the mother in this situation.

It’s not that I haven’t done this before, this asking what options she suggested. What is unusual is that it preceded my usual ranting and raving. Even as I listened to her, I repeated to myself, “I greet this day with love in my heart”. The stimulus-choice-response that Mark talked about on Sunday – yep, I was doing it. Usually, the addiction to the anger peptides would mean that I would have lashed out verbally, which does nothing for our relationship or for the issue at hand. TODAY, I CHOSE to have a different response. Today, I chose to be more loving. That was huge.

The frustration I have felt in the past couple of weeks about not being consistent melted away when I was able to respond in this rare way of calmness. It shows that progress is being made, ever so slowly. I am happy with that.

 

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  • Dominica says:

    beautiful!! bravo!! 🙂

  • Eileen says:

    Wonderful how you are changing, evolving, really. May you see many more successes.

  • Jean says:

    Hi Suzanne.
    I love your post. It brought tears to my eyes. You are not only making a better world for yourself and your daughter but for the world. That is fabulous! Sending lots of love to you!

  • Donna Wasielewski says:

    What an AMAZING blog post. The results of what you are doing is going to carry on for GENERATIONS as your children learn to approach situations with love rather than fear or anger. So happy for you and your kids! That took a LOT of strength! You go!

  • masterkey_Experience says:

    I can see you’re a in front of me, my wife challenged me today, I managed to stay polite with her but did not managed to stay calm inside of me… :-))) => Restart mental diet !!!!
    E. Fox says, if it’s chaos at beginning of your mental diet it’s a good sign….
    Everything goes crazy with me since the mental diet…. :-)))

    • Suzanne says:

      We are all walking this road together. 🙂 Mental Diet=Chaos, yep. I can agree with that. Since I posted this, things have conspired to make a liar out of me. Oh well – I keep pressing on. Hang in there!

  • jaime says:

    First, I love the 8.5 weeks! I also feel like some of my greatest MKMMA challenges come when dealing with my kids. They are the loves of my life, but also a royal pain in the arse and it is sooooo important to apply this stuff with them, it changes everything. Thanks for the inspiring post!

    • Suzanne says:

      Awww…..thank you, Jaime! Yes, I know what you’re talking about, lol. I think our children can be the most challenging sometimes, and yet, hopefully, the most rewarding when things turn out well. Just keep on putting one foot in front of the other. You’re doing great – awareness is the first step to changing. 😉

  • Chiara says:

    I can relate to that: kids can be challenging to us and our mental diet. What a difference you are making with the efforts to remain calm! We do not feed those peptides anymore:)

  • Suzanne, My children are 40 and 42 and I still greet this day with love in my heart when I talk to them as well. I can relate! You handled the situation beautifully as did your daughter. Kudos to you both!

    John

    • Suzanne says:

      John,

      That’s funny! I thought it got easier when they got to adulthood, lol! Thank you so much. I was pretty proud of us both. 🙂

  • Don Grantham says:

    I love the .5 midweek update! Simply wonderful

  • Awesome Post, Keep up the great work Be Blessed – Darren

  • Wonderful! Now that’s real progress!

  • Jan Russ says:

    What a great demonstration of insight and growth.

  • Jean says:

    It feels so good when I’m able to respond rationally in situations like this. Good job.

  • Hey Suzanne,
    I like your choice of imaging “delayed gratification” – Downloading Success Please wait……-
    I love that you decided to challenge the resourcefulness of your daughter. Truly awesome.
    Thanks for posting, G

    • Suzanne says:

      Gerhard, thanks so much. I loved the graphic as soon as I found it, so I just had to use it. Thank you so much for your kind words.

  • Shelby Nolan says:

    Great post! Isn’t it amazing the subtle changes that take place without us knowing until it comes out at a time when we need it? Slow and steady wins the race 😉

  • Definitely a well put-together site, and from a well-put together woman!! Learning is huge, and you’re leaving a huge legacy for your daughter. I also love the 8.5 idea. I adopted that once also, as an addendum, I feel I start posting before I “get ” something major!

    • Suzanne says:

      Marj, thanks so much for that. My focus is always my girls, so legacy-building is huge to me. Thanks so much for your kind words. 🙂

  • Joanne says:

    Great response. You changed your and your daughter’s day. What a way to turn something inconvenient into something wonderful!

  • Great contents Enjoyed it so much!!!! Thanks

  • Claudia says:

    So glad to see another homeschooler. I get you… way to keep your cool!

  • Love the everyday practical vision you and your kids and new habits installed. This is what really counts; and you have installed new choices in the DNA of you children! I and the rest of the inhabitants of this planet should thank you for rearing a Thinking Next Generation for we all will benefit! Give more Get more right…

  • Jeanne Dow says:

    Your choice to ask questions and get your daughter involved in the solution is so loving and causes a new level of partnership for each of you. Beautiful use of Law of Substitution as well.

  • Phew, I don’t even know where to begin with the gratitude I have to stumble upon your site today. It all started with your blog being featured on our webinar this evening, and I’ve found more gold on your main site. What you do for your kids and for others is stunning. I’m blessed to know you, and I’m honored to be reminded that there are no accidents in life. I was meant to read your blog. It’s meant to change my life. Mahalo for the things you do intentionally and the things you do without even realizing your impact. Keep up the good work. You are amazing!

  • What a great post! Such profound changes! Thank you for sharing. I’m cheering for you!

  • master-key-jay-z says:

    WOW! Being a home-school parent myself, I know exactly where you are coming from. This is awesome! Great post. Thanks for sharing.

    • Suzanne says:

      Hey Jay! Nice to “meet” another homeschooler here in the course! Thanks so much for your comment. I look forward to learning more about you.

  • Wonderful Suzanne. Raising children knowing what we know…imagine the impact this will have on their lives. I love your story and totally get the “old me” patterns as I have been there as well. Our 10 year old is working his way through Og this round of the MKE and is using it in his daily interactions – the results amazing! Muchas gracias for sharing!

    • Suzanne says:

      Wow, Carolynn! Your 10 year old is going to be powerful, if he is going through Og at this age. Congrats on empowering him like this!

  • Liane says:

    Great application of “I will greet this day with love in my heart”. I know these are challenging situations. I have 2 boys and they had to drive back with me already a few times because I forgot something (yes it’s me the messy head in the family) and they never actually complain. It is amazing, they just accept that it happens from time to time and love me. Isn’t that great.

    • Suzanne says:

      That IS great, Liane! I think we moms are allowed to forget, since we have so much going on in our heads, lol. At least that is my story and I am sticking to it. But it is great that your boys don’t complain. 🙂

  • I really enjoyed reading about your daughter doing her DMP. I also read some of the back of post and they are all excellent what an inspiring blog. I am so glad that you are featured in the webinar.

  • Wes says:

    You are becoming “The Observer”! I found that was the beginning of my breakthrough!

  • Ron Arthurs says:

    Thank you Suzanne for sharing this beautiful moment and your change. Well done.
    RonA

  • Great to see your changing…Especially toward your kids…

  • Cyndy james says:

    Hi Suzanne how AWESOME to catch yourself before the tirade. My son is 26 now and he unfortunately had to deal with many of my tirades. I think it just shows that we as parents are still growing as we raise our children. I have to laugh but I remember telling him that it would be his responsibility to get therapy as an adult…that it would then be his responsibility to grow as he raised his own children since that was what I did with him. Maybe we are different from you as we are breaking generational curses and I did my part on some and it will be up to him to break a few of his own. Hope you and your family had an WONDERFUL Thanksgiving holiday.

    • Suzanne says:

      LOL, Cyndy! I have said the same thing about therapy many times. 😉 I think every family has something to rise above, even the most perfect-looking family on the outside. Most families have some element of dysfunction, because of our brokenness and fragility. Thank you for your encouragement, and yes, my Thanksgiving was nice, when I settled into celebrating it. 🙂

  • Art Burleigh says:

    Hi Suzanne – 53 comments to your “Week 8.5” post, eh?! BRAVO!! I’m inspired to read ALL of your MKMMA blog posts now, cuz you sound like a GREAT Mom, a very sincere and persistent person, and a lot more.

    Where do you live? Are you in a MKMMA Mastermind Group yet? Where are you on Facebook?

    I’m in Los Angeles and am in Facebook as Art Burleigh.

    Hope all’s great with you. I admire and respect your MKMMA progress and persistence!

    Bravo and best,

    Art Burleigh 818-606-3042

    • Suzanne says:

      Art, it is CRAZY (good crazy, lol) how many comments I got! I am so blessed and humbled by them all. Thank you for your kind words. I am masterminding, and am not opposed to another. 🙂

  • Tim says:

    Hi Suzanne, How awesome your older daughter is doing the MKMMA with you. I’ve shared a thing or two with my kids and they think it’s pretty cool. I look forward to reading more results.

  • Greg Lassig says:

    Great to be able to acknowledge progress for the effort put in, you are seeing results, great to be able to think and choose instead of allowing the old blue print to just react to a given stimulus. Excellent! 🙂

  • What a wonderful response to a trying situation, Suzanne. Thank you for sharing this.

  • It’s awesome that you and your daughter are taking this journey together. Congratulations on the strides to a better you! Keep going!

  • Patty Bender says:

    I love that MKMMA has become a family affair in your household. What your daughter is learning along with you is invaluable! Congratulations to all of you!

  • Terez Major says:

    The small everyday situations are the small bricks we build ourselves and future as well. The foundations are rock solid. Your example is very encouraging, thank you.

    • Suzanne says:

      I’m so glad you found it encouraging, Terez! And yes, the small things turn into big things day by day. Thank YOU for your encouragement, and that reminder.

  • Dennis says:

    I loved that you’re including your daughter in your MKMMA experience! I agree – knowing we have the choice each time we have a thought is super empowering. Enjoy the Holiday Season with your family.

    • Suzanne says:

      It’s amazing to do it with her, Dennis! And yes – the thought between the stimulus and the response is really empowering. I hope you don’t mind me wishing you Merry Christmas! 😉

  • Changes and all for the good. Superb!

  • David says:

    Reading this will help me to think before I speak and just take a deep. breath and Say: “I Start This Day With Love In My Heart” Thank You for sharing!

  • Mary says:

    I love this, Suzanne. What a win-win. You tamed your habit to react negatively and taught your daughter a great way to handle a “bump in the road.” Bravo!

    • Suzanne says:

      Mary, thank you so much! I had not thought of it that way. Frankly, she is much calmer and nicer than I am, so it nice to be starting to be more like her. 🙂

  • Patti Smith says:

    Suzanne, I loved your post about thinking through situation before responding and using what you have learned so far. You go girl!! What an awesome response to your daughter. It would be a cute you tube video of your daughter stating her DMP as she played, teaching Mom and Dad to play the piano. I love it. My week 12 b log is about overcoming overwhelm and using the laws of the mind s well. Thank you for sharing. Yes, the teachings are sinking in and becoming organic responses. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.

    • Suzanne says:

      Thanks so much, Patti! Yes, she would enjoy me making a video with her as the star. She is such a ham! I will check your blog post out – sounds like there is super valuable content on there for all of us.

      Merry Christmas and a Happy, Healthy and Prosperous New Year!

  • Pamela says:

    Congratulations!

  • Karen says:

    I returned to read this for probably the 4th time. So inspiring! 🙂

  • Camille says:

    Well done!! It feels good when we start incorporating new thoughts and the effect is inner peace and calm! Great read. Thanks

  • This is beautiful Suzanne. It’s fun to look at situations and smile knowing that we handled them differently because of the Master Key Experience that does not come without your hard mental labor! Enjoy your journey, Carol

  • Roz says:

    I have those moments too, and I want live in that reality always, my daughter really likes that mom

  • Deb says:

    Suzanne. WOW! and Yes! You did it! Why I love reading others blogs so much is YES…I just did that too! Cool Beans! And I am changing! And it is Wonderful!
    Thanks for sharing!

  • Love your post, Suzanne. Miracles are happening right before our very eyes.

  • Alicia Bozza says:

    Great work here! Love that you were patient!! Way to go!!

  • Wayne Smith says:

    Becoming and being the observer, changing our responses, being more loving, what a great day for you. Congratulations!

    • Suzanne says:

      Yes, Wayne, it truly was. A blessing, and an example of what all of this journey is about. Thanks so much for your encouragement. 🙂

  • I love seeing the growth in people through their blogs.
    You are pure awesomeness.

  • Very cool how you are growing into the future self. Great progress. I can see why this is a featured blog.

  • Peder says:

    What a great experience to build upon and remember the rest of your days! Thanks for sharing your family adventure! Wopela! EEEEEEKit! Have a Wunderli day!

  • Aloha Suzanne another GR8 post not sure how I missed this one…
    I am glad you are learning better ways to do stuff and then teaching them to your children AWEsome…kids are kids they forget stuff 🙂