Week 17a – Grief and the Laws of the Mind

This week, we are supposed to be reading obituaries – at least one every day, being sure to look at the picture of the deceased. Frankly, I’m resisting it big time. I don’t know why we are supposed to read them, and I don’t care about the rationale.

The last obituary I read was that of my father. I helped write it. I haven’t read another in almost a year and a half. I don’t want to read obituaries. I’m trying to practice the Law of Substitution, in remembering my daddy’s laugh and how we used to watch kung fu movies. I’m doing that so I don’t drown in the sadness that is instinctive when I think of no longer being able to talk to him. I’m counting on the Law of Practice, that my consistent practice of the Law of Substitution is going to kick in, although it doesn’t feel like it.

I know Daddy wouldn’t want me crying. He was a pretty emotional person and I saw (and heard) him cry a good many times. But he loved to laugh, and loved to laugh uproariously.

In honor of him, here are two of my very favorite songs. I will likely be back later this week. It’s just a bit too much right now.




I did not have any disagreements with Daddy or things left unsaid before he died, but this song has always spoken to me. I just wish I had had more time.


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  • Yvette Charbonneau says:

    Sorry for the loss of your Father

  • masterkeychiara13 says:

    I am so sorry Suzanne…I understand that such a requirement is not easy to do for someone that have recently lost a family member. So, just let it be. Do not force yourself, listen to your hearth. Many blessings to you an your family.

  • My condolences for the loss of your father. I understand the struggling to read them. I having the sasm. I could never figure out why my father and father-in-law both read them every time the paper come out.. Thanks for sharing and I look forward to reading more about how your feeling. Blessings…!

    • Suzanne says:

      Thank you. I am sorry for your struggles, Robert. I have never really understood it. There was a time when I actually read them more often, because at one point, I was losing high school friends (in your 20s and 30s that is terribly depressing!) My father went to funerals like he went to church. I never could understand that. I avoid funerals as much as possible! I will be posting an update to this post shortly. Be sure to come back! 🙂 Blessings!

  • Ambush says:

    I’m so sorry for your pain.

  • Shelby Nolan says:

    So sorry for the loss of your father. Reading obituraries can bring back unpleasant memories or good ones. That’s the beauty though, you get to decide 🙂 just “be” and let your heart do the talking. Blessings of love and light to you.

    • Suzanne says:

      Thank you, Shelby. You are so right about obituaries and memories. I expect that one day the not-so-great will be less, and the wonderful ones will be more. Thanks so much for your support!